How to Pray for a Husband or Wife: Understanding God’s Timing in Your Single Season
- Bibi Babz
- Mar 13
- 3 min read
Are You Praying for a Husband or Wife? Here’s What You Need to Know
Have you been praying for a spouse but feel like nothing is happening? You’re not alone. Many Christian singles struggle with understanding God’s timing for marriage and how to prepare during their single season. There are two key factors that influence how and when God answers prayers for a husband or wife:
Understanding the purpose of your single season
Recognising God’s divine timing—His Kairos moment
Without these, you might find yourself waiting longer than necessary—or worse, delaying your own blessings.
What Delays God’s Plan? Lessons from the Israelites
The Israelites were meant to reach the Promised Land in 40 days, but instead, they wandered in the wilderness for 40 years (Numbers 14:33-34). Why? Because they didn’t trust God’s process. In the end, only two people from the original generation entered the land God had promised.
3 mistakes kept the Israelites stuck:
Complaining instead of trusting
The Israelites constantly grumbled about their situation—about food, water, and even God’s plan (Exodus 16:2-3, Numbers 11:1-6). They kept looking back at Egypt, longing for the past instead of trusting God for the future. Are you complaining about being single instead of embracing it as a season of preparation? Philippians 2:14 reminds us to do everything without complaining or arguing. If you find yourself feeling sad or frustrated by your wait, why not turn your attention to the various ways that God has blessed you during this time? Focusing on gratitude will help you to build trust and faith in God.
Rushing God’s plan
When Moses went up the mountain, the Israelites became impatient. Instead of waiting, they made a golden calf to worship (Exodus 32:1-4). They wanted to see something happen now, even if it wasn’t God's way. Dear Single Christian: Are you rushing into relationships just to "speed up" the process? Settling for someone outside of God's will can lead to unnecessary heartbreak. Psalm 27:14 says, "Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord."
Fear and doubt instead of faith
When it was time to enter the Promised Land, the Israelites sent spies. But instead of trusting God, they focused on the obstacles and allowed fear to stop them (Numbers 13:31-33). Do you doubt that God has someone for you? Fear can lead to settling or believing lies like "all the good ones are taken." 2 Timothy 1:7 reminds us, “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.”
Sarah’s Mistake: Trying to Help God
Sarah also struggled with waiting on God’s timing. Instead of trusting His promise, she took matters into her own hands:
She gave her servant Hagar to Abraham, hoping to "help" God (Genesis 16:1-4).
When Hagar became pregnant, Sarah grew resentful and caused conflict (Genesis 16:5-6).
Later, when God reaffirmed His promise, Sarah laughed in disbelief (Genesis 18:10-12).
Eventually, in God’s perfect time, Sarah gave birth to Isaac (Genesis 21:1-2). Have you ever tried to "help" God by dating someone who wasn’t right for you? Have you made compromises out of fear that God is taking too long? Ecclesiastes 3:11 reminds us that God makes everything beautiful in its own time. God told Abraham and Sarah that He will return to them according to the time of life, and Sarah will have a child. There was an appointed time for Sarah to have a child, but she needed the help and grace of God to wait until that time to receive her blessing. There is an appointed time for you to meet your future spouse.
Your single season is not wasted—it’s preparation
If you’re single, this is your time to:
Deepen your relationship with God (Matthew 6:33)
Heal from past wounds and relationships (Psalm 147:3)
Develop godly character for marriage (Proverbs 31 for women, Ephesians 5 for men)
Pray for your future spouse and God’s perfect plan (Jeremiah 29:11)
Your single season is not about waiting—it’s about preparing.
Join the 30 Days of Prayer for Singles
If you’re serious about praying for a godly marriage, join us for 30 Days of Prayer for Singles from 24th March to 23rd April.
🕊 Just 15 minutes a day
📖 Guided prayers and scripture reflections
📝 Healing, growth, and preparation for marriage
To follow along, get your copy of:
📖 For Women: Before I Do – A 30-Day Prayer Journal for Single Women
📖 For Men: Pursuing Purposefully – A 30-Day Prayer Journal for Single Men
Don’t delay your blessings by repeating the mistakes of the past. Step into God’s plan for your life today!
Get your journal now at wiseattraction.com and join the 30 Days of Prayer!
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